Forums IMPORTANT: PLEASE READ Abundance for Life, Effortless Success How do you attract something?

So I am thinking that part of the problem in relationships I have had is the mates I have attracted. I don't really understand how attraction works. I think if I can understand it, I could better correct that problem. I know that part of the problem of attracting wrong mates and the preliminary anxiety I have (which maybe part of the attraction) is becuase how my mental tape plays out. I have made affirmation tapes about feeling loved, attracting the right person, and a dozen other qualities that I believed would manifest a loving partner in my live, but to no avail. Attraction is a wierd thing. I believe it could be understood unlike the saying "God works in mystery ways". Which is true, but if it could not be understood then, cause and effect would be pointelss.

In my opinion, attracting something to you is also the same as you being attracted to something yourself.

Just pretend that the Universe is really neutral and that no emotion exists out there unless you put it out there. Nothing will be attracted to you if you are not attracted to it. Most of this is sub conscious until you start looking at it and start having realizations about it. Follow the feeling. If it's a true feeling then it will stay with you, if it's a false feeling then it will release when you become conscious of it.

So you would have to figure out what attracts you. Is it beauty, charm, pleasure?
Can you take the tips from Unlimited Futures and make up the person you are attracted to and then just let it go?

I think you have to dig deep to find what you are really attracted to instead of what you have been handed "this is what is attractive" or something, someone else thinks is attractive.

You place these feelings into your "Unlimited Futures" target and go from there. Refine it as necessary.

Hope that helps.

You might like to try this three list method. It's a bit like a pros and cons but you make three list.

Must have, Would be nice, Definately don't want.

Make a list of the kind of person you would like to attact using a sheet of paper divided into those three columns. Put the list aside. The next week make another list without looking at the first. Then the following week another one. The fourth week look at all three list and notice what you put in each column. Those items that you repeated each week are more important and some are not as important as you first thought. Once you know what you want it's easier to attract it.

That list method would apply to things like jobs, homes, cars, property, working environment. A useful way to gain clarity for the 7 step process.

Alex

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Originally posted by jeffdengr:
In my opinion, attracting something to you is also the same as you being attracted to something yourself.

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I beg to disagree Jeff. I was attracted to this girl in an obsessive way. I would have done any thing for her. I would have swam an ocean and walked accross a desert for her. But she rejected me in a callous way. She was repulsed as much as I was attracted to her.

OK, I know the feeling, believe me. So if you are experiencing this then you have to take a look into your belief system about relationships. You attract or repel based on your belief system.

If you are getting something you don't want then you must be putting attention on that. I doubt that you are doing this consciously or you wouldn't get that result. I know I was.

If you can make up the person you could see yourself being with and would fulfill a relationship for you, fill that with enough positive emotions then it will come to be. If you have a set of beliefs that you operate from and is contrary to that then it will sabatoge your plans.

You could pick this up from a song on the radio like "Love Hurts" and sing it over and over until you operate on it on a sub conscious level. I know the Righteous Brothers really gave me some bad information with their music.

Bobby Stevens in her interview asks the question if there is anything in her Belief System that would prevent her from attaining whatever she was targeting. If she gets something back , then she knows she has to work through this before she can get what she wants.

My other advice is don't go swimming seas for anyone but yourself. If you want to do that, do it for yourself first because you want to. Don't do it to prove love for someone else.

Jeff

A book which I have gotten much value from in the area of attraction is:

Sandra Ann Taylor's:
Secrets of Attraction: The Universal Laws of Love, Sex and Romance.

I and others on a couple of various yahoo boards I visit agree as to how effective her principles are. She unites two things: the effect that core beliefs have on you, with the quantum physics behind that 'force' that draws people to you or away from you.

Are we talking about attracting something or someone? There is a distininction. If it is someone then we are talking about another human with their own path, potential ,and problems.

Lists work. True story. My wife's first husband walked out on her. Her best friend's husband left her the very next day (talk about parallel karma!). So that night they sat on the front porch and fantasized about the perfect man.

My wife wrote her list down and forgot about it. Ten years later my wife and I met. Turns out I fit the list almost exactly. My wife had even forgotten about the list until her friend reminded her how closely I matched the list.

My wife and I have been married for 18 years now. I believe it is because we were both complete as individuals. We did not need the other to fill in the gaps (what we lack).

AK74, better luck in the future. Try not pursueing so ravenously. Try the light touch. Apparently swimming or walking was not what you were called upon to do to demonstrate your devotion. Letting her go was.

It sounds as if you need to surpass mummy and daddy, and forget all the things you want to do to make your parents be the way you feel they should be and should have been...
That should cut that repeating pattern of connecting with prospective mates that always need repair...

Plus you need to establish deep trance, and imagine an invisible cord between you and your parents and siblings, and cut those cords... Maybe Alex knows something about that...

There is a lot more to do in your case, these solutions are just to address the immediate voiced concern... You must include all of your problems and concerns, and include the whole Being in the healing equasion for it to become a permanent fix... Look into a mirror, and step back from yourself, without moving, and say to yourself from all inside, "I am building a perfect Human Being" with the attributes of a Princess...
(prince for males)...