With the first two questions the idea is to consider if it is true. When I started considering them and listening t omyself I realised that a simple yes or no is the black or white thinking that what is preventing me from Loving What Is.
When it comes to creating the turn around one why is to replace the name of the person who you have issues with and say I [name] and finish the statement with what you originally said of them.
You also need to keep trying on the different hats. Keep saying the opposite. Swaping your name or their name or changing the shoulds to should not, doesn't have to to have to, do's to don't for example.
Also try "my thinking" as an addition to the statement.
There is not just one turnaround. So the idea is not to look for one designed right one but to keep turning around the statement and ask yourself for each one is this as true or truer than the original statement. Also look at the suggestions Paul provided in the manual. Try anything that is opposite.
Alex
