Are we talking about attracting something or someone? There is a distininction. If it is someone then we are talking about another human with their own path, potential ,and problems.
Lists work. True story. My wife's first husband walked out on her. Her best friend's husband left her the very next day (talk about parallel karma!). So that night they sat on the front porch and fantasized about the perfect man.
My wife wrote her list down and forgot about it. Ten years later my wife and I met. Turns out I fit the list almost exactly. My wife had even forgotten about the list until her friend reminded her how closely I matched the list.
My wife and I have been married for 18 years now. I believe it is because we were both complete as individuals. We did not need the other to fill in the gaps (what we lack).
AK74, better luck in the future. Try not pursueing so ravenously. Try the light touch. Apparently swimming or walking was not what you were called upon to do to demonstrate your devotion. Letting her go was.
