Thank you BartonSprings for recalling and replying to my post as well as Gail and Zeus who I should have thanked much earlier and Babayada as well as Jeffdengr, thank you. You have all given me a much more integrated approach rather than the black and white view I had previously.
When you guys put all these ideas in front of me, amazed, I thought, hold on these are ALL true. The problem comes when you see a black or white point of view, as BartonSprings' mentioned, and oscillate like crazy between two opposing ideas, creating unnecessary pressure in relationships and screwing things up because you have to have things work in a certain way, like thinking there is a Mrs. Right like Babayada mentioned. As Babayada said seeing that a person is the wrong person or right person can really narrow life's experience to boring, making life far less fun and less of an explorative learning experience.
I love BartonSprings' idea of "soul potentials" a wonderfully realistic blend of soul and practicality. Even though sometimes we just have to pretend (although not forget completely) that we don't have a soul (also a very wise idea Babayada) and get on with the practical side of living to the full where we are in life right now.
For along time, BartonSprings', I have been rattled with the idea why I was experiencing a possibility that there are more than one possible soul potentials for every person. I was frustrated with the idea because I felt God had one plan for my life and that's it. I now feel that God has many, many possible paths for a person to follow, allowing free choice, and a wonderful melding of His plans with ours. BartonSprings' you have healed my agony at a very sychronistic time in my life. The timing of your synchronicity of your recall of this post is impeccable. I had almost clicked cognitively about this, but you have given me a well needed nudge. Thanks. I now feel that I am much more in the flow of things than I did before.
I feel that our biochemistry is a wonderful thing to get drunk on, Babayada, and it could also be working as part of God's plan(as something that has its place), as research has said that we get a chemical jolt when a person matches our unique lovemap, that we created as a child. Of course many things can go horribly wrong with our lovemaps and we then get into wrong relationships, so our chemistry is not in this way and many other ways a faultless guide as you have said.
I feel that the initial infatuation that you mentioned Jeffdengr and Babayada is a needed jolt to give a relationship a good headstart, hopefully by the time it ends you have developed other meldings for the long haul, as you both said. I love Richard Bandler's Passion Enhancer CD session, "...that each time I hear my wife's voice or see her face, I would fall twice as much in love with her...", "...if you can remember how your car starts, and you can remember how to brush your teeth...you can remember how to increase your passion...". That CD is a wonderful cure for feelings of infatuation and passion lost in youth.
Thanks to Crazy08, Gail and Zeus also for their contributions.
I really loved all your posts. Some with seemingly opposing truths, but really again they are all truths that make a whole.
[This message has been edited by Grant (edited October 09, 2005).]
