My own philosophy came from a saying of my primary spiritual teacher combined with the advice from the Relationship paraliminal. Tani told me, "Will call to will." To quote the notes of the paraliminal, "you must become the person you wish to attract."
The method of self-becoming I developed was to set a number of catagories, and to have the same number of goals per catagory. My own gestalt is financial, physical, mental and spiritual, with three goals for each. So far, I've gotten one physical and one mental goal taken care of.
From a less "esoteric" viewpoint, what do you have to offer? Now, I'm pretty sure you have a lot to offer. However, you could always offer more. This is not so much improving for the sake of other people, but rather realizing that the more value you build for yourself, the less cause you will have to fear that your partner will see you as replacable.
I hope this made sense.
