Hi again,
Thanx you are all helpful. Last night after oscillating whether she lied to me or I that I was going crazy and rolling on the floor in absolute agony over how I could have wasted such precious time on such a girl. Natural Brilliance must have kicked in, because I felt a light joy, and slight amusement with the situation. I wish I could know exactly what process I followed mentally, to bring about the amusement, to use for future situations. Dsss27, Babayada and Kaiden your messages are large pieces of the processes I used to pick myself up again. Having this discussion forum here for support was a great help.
For your curiosity, some of the problems were: I used to collect insects so when she mentioned insects in such a fond way, without me even having mentioned my interest in them, I was hooked. I thought hey here's a girl who likes insects like me, wow, she must be heaven sent. With the instant bond she created over the phone I thought she was marvelous - but I realize now how can I have a solid relationship with someone whose skills are appearing as her character. I think she wants a man around for company and I think she's scared she can't get it any other way.
I've decided that I don't mind a woman to be seductive, but she must be open and honest about it. I suppose that is a contradiction in terms. I myself, was interested in seduction at one stage, it appears attractive on the outside, but i'm not sure about the values that go with it, I'm still learning about the dangers, and what a way to learn - being on the receiving end. I'd rather learn that way than hurt someone else and learn. I learnt the best way. Now I'm more enlightened and thankful for the lessons. Maybe I could say that it was the best thing that could have happened to me - Resiliency style.
I also reckon that it's those who feel that they are powerless to create the relationships they desire that use techniques of seduction. It's power for the powerless. She's had it rough in her life, she decided to leave home very young, and she's had to weather many storms on her own, without comfort. In the end she's also going to be a better person than many people, because she's learning all the time.
Concluding, I've decided to end my thoughts of a future with her, due to her dishonesty and several other reasons.
Thanx for your help and support.
You are all very enlightened.
Regards
Grant
[This message has been edited by Grant (edited September 05, 2003).]
