Joey, you raised a really good question, that I have been thinking also much recently. I ordered an another book of same author that was recommended by Hobo. Here:
Harville Hendrix: Keeping The Love You Find
I didnīt get it yet, but I viewed sample pages online and I think itīs a good choice for someone searching for two things: 1. the "right" one and 2. life-long relationship with that person.
HenriS