Forums IMPORTANT: PLEASE READ Beyond Human Is long-term marriage possible anymore?

>The question shouldn't necessarily be >whether or not long term marriage is >possible, but rather is it desirable?

This depends on persons, of course. I think that long-term relationship can be much more fulfilling, when both are committed to..

1. each other
2. to grow as individuals
3. as a couple in the relationship

The relationship can change its shape and form in the way, but ideally the love between persons can become so strong by the time that it is finally spiritual (or close). This is my romantic view on this thing.

>the love loses its lustre or the >companionship becomes unwanted, there is >little holding the people back from >finding more suitable companions.

I think here is a lot self-programming: thinking that love will lose its shine sooner or later. We do this self-programming, because there is lot of proof around us - broken marriages, etc. Magical feelings that are common in the early stages can fade away, but don´t let them be everything.

>Don't look at it as throwaway, see it as >liberating. That way, if you or your >partner outgrows the other, you don't find >yourself stuck in a miserable situation.

It seems that people in western countries are really living this time of "liberating". They are very easily thinking that "this didn´t work - let´s try something different". The more you have relationships, the more difficult it´s to trust that this new one is the final. Even people in the "arranged marriages" cultures seem to be much happier in their relationships than people in the western throwaway cultures - this was my personal observation in India. Many westerns may think that those people who had arranged marriages, must be really sad, because they did´t have the chance to choose, but it is far from the truth - of course there is exceptions also in this case.