I believe that what I put out in to the world emotionally and mentally comes back to me. For instance, if I am judgemental about another person and their process then I will be also be judged by another at some point in time.
I also believe that many of the emotions I feel are chosen. The choice happens in an instant and often we do not even recognize the moment of chosing. I am practicing for myself each time I feel hurt or angry or sad to look at my choices and what I am trying to get another person to "do for me" by telling them that they "caused" me to be hurt or angry or sad. One thing that has helped me with this process is that when I feel anger flare up inside of me is to remind myself that it is my anger it belongs to me and is inside of me. It is not belonging to the person who I am angry at...now they may also be angry however that is their anger. What this does for me is to help me get a handle on taking responsibility for my feelings and to work on myself. Since really the only person I can control is me.
This practice has been working well for me in my interactions with others.
Hope this helps you find what you are seeking
Blessings
Nickie
