great answers but what is the solution to the problem?
hey marg, I'm always in a relaxed state. the only time when Im not is when there is a reason to be excited, for instance, riding a roller coaster. but still like I said I do all the guidelines, including entering a state of alert relaxation. i do this by clearing out my mind. dim the room a bit and get out or rid of noise and racket. sometimes i put on a little bit of soothing music but as I'm deaf, it's a little distracting so I've stopped doing that. (i wear cochlear implant and it makes hearing really good, I speak orally and people can't believe how well i speak. unfortunately it also enhances some sounds that shouldn't be as loud as it is with the cochlear. so i try to stamp those sounds out every now and again.)
the other thing is question thing. nothing seems specific. and like I told you, i can't activate. it HURTs. so I haven't got all that good an idea what you're talking about when you're in activating state. Are you telling me that you 'ignore the pain' and write your questions in capitals and then it finds you... how? please explain?
thanks
miss eggy 
