Youngprer, please don't take what I'm about to say as critism. It's meant to help. Although I don't have the answers, I think I'm a pretty good observer and have learned a few things with my years.
My oberservation from your big post is the no friends comment and the "things will be better when" type comment.
For emotional balance, all anyone needs is one friend. However, it must be a good friend. One you can share EVERYTHING about yourself with and be accepted. They don't have to agree with everything or even like everything, but they accept it as part of you and are your friend. A few friend like this is even better. A hundred chums, but no good friends is unhealthy.
The looking to the future is a common psychological trait. The idea of a positive destiny is very good. The problem is thinking that the future will be problem free. I think the difference in the two states can be seen in a person's attitude about NOW.
For both of these issues I would recommend PR and direct learning several books on personal communication, motivation, basic psychology and other like minded material.
I hate to every say anyone is stupid. I prefer a more charitable "They haven't been fortunate enough to travel a path that has gifted them with the full enlightenment they are capable of achieving". Gee that sounds sickly sweet. I more commonly substitute ignorance for stupidity, and ignorance is readily curable. Unfortunately it does require them to want the cure.
Sorry, I sort of ranted their. I don't know your situation, and if I did I doubt I would know how to improve it. However, my comments about are meant to gesture to help you achieve greater happiness.
