Hi

First, it doesn't sound to me like a paraliminal should be your first line of attack. In your position, I would begin with Spring Forest Qi Gong, available from Learning Strategies at the rather gargantuan price of $200. They *do* offer a money-back guarantee, though, so if doesn't work in a month, call them and ask them to extend it another 2 months. They will.
Next, check out "The Thyroid Solution" by Dr. Ridha Arem. Maybe your thyroid is not involved with this, but you owe it to yourself to read the most advanced book on this subject! I did!
Check out Nathaniel Branden's audio cassette about anxiety and depression. It should be available from Laissez Faire Books. They have an 800 number, and the cassette is reasonably priced.
Buy "Self-Creation" by Dr. George Weinberg. Write out the thoughts and feelings that come to you when you attempt to do things. In turn, as a result of continually rereading this book, you will get other ideas about the ways you restimulate your anxiety unknowingly.
Seek out a counselor with whom you have alot of empathy. Some people have a knack for making it easier for us to unburden ourselves. These people may be student therapists or just friends. Getting someone both competent and empathetic can be a real hassle--incredibly time-consuming and expensive--so that's why I wouldn't worry too much about absolute competence, but instead focus on empathy.
At this point, get the self-esteem supercharger. You may want to purchase it earlier. But whenever you go into paraliminals, remember:they are never good substitutes for responsible action.
Good Luck,
Mike
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