Just an update here. My g-f is finally showing improvement in her self-confidence, altho she still has a long path ahead, I feel more confident that she is going in the right direction, so I continue my encouragement, and now insist she consider some form of higher education. As for my own problem, I have improved somewhat, now making C's and D's (One B i think), which is a major improvement over my single A(easy class), 'c' and 3 f's last semester. I achieved this by spending many hours a day reading this forum, and reflecting/semi-meditating on my life. I am really looking at Natural Brilliance, as it seems my problem does originate in a model of failure created by my past experiences. How many of you in similar positions have had positive results with this tool? As always, reply's are appreciated, so thx all.