Hi!
Im sometimes totally anxious-free. Mostly due to the paraliminal. I intend before I listen to feel calm and nice with someone/situation. Tho sometimes it can be beneficial to not point at the someone/situation intended, but just anything else. Youll be in a anxious-free state not intended for anything but just beeing where you are. Calm and okay with everything.
Also instead of making pictures and getting feelings of anxiousness, make pictures/talk to yourself about how you really want it to be. I realized some time ago that I like to see myself in a relaxed way with people. If I see some prospect girlfriend I like to see her and me lying down and just feeling great on a couch. So the posture is important for me. So try imagining yourself in some way that you feel ultra comfortable with him/her/situation. Sitting with him/her in your pyjamas or whatever is most comfortable for you.
