If you are finding yourself numb on wanting another intimate relationship at this time, then you might just want to work on letting yourself be without an intimate relationship for a while and allowing yourself fo be happy with that. It seems to me that you want to get yourself together first.
While it is possible to attached a new relationship, your blocking and not being sure you want another relationship would probably make for more sorrow.
I suggest you try the self esteem paraliminal, the relationship one would be good too, that would help you explore what you want out of a relationship as well as improving current ones.
Like I said if you're not sure that you're ready for a new intimate relationship it's probably in your best interest not to worry about it. I know that our self esteem is often is shattered by the breakdown of an intimate relationship and to risk injury too soon causes many of us to apply the brakes, while we need to heal. Just knowing that you're OK on your own takes a while to accept to. Give it time and hang in there
Alex
