Hi Eric,
I was thinking whether to post a reply to you or not. Finally I decided to reply.
It seems you have been able to work yourself into a corner, to put it mildly. Making decisions can be the most challenging everyday task people do. Luckily there are ways to learn it on purpose.
Have you used Paraliminals? To my experience they are the most effective self-help cds on the market. I have used them now 6-8 months, 1-3 Paraliminals each day. Now finally my mind has decided to take a break (7 days without Paraliminals now), and things are happening on their own.
You may benefit from Richard Bandler's cds also. They are something else! He gives you a direction to go, and if you can do it, the rest is history!
Take some distance from your bad feelings. How? Concentrate on good feelings! Make a decision to concentrate on any good feeling you have. Talk to yourself in a loving tone. Never use an angry or depressed tone on yourself. Walk straight, keep your eyes open. Congratulate yourself every time you notice yourself doing these things! Every good thing you do to yourself comes back 1000-folded.
If you concentrate on bad feelings and mistakes, that is what you'll find. Yeah, it's an old saying, and valid too. You may feel that your old habits are comfortable like an old shoe, when you are faced with a situation where you can get rid of them. It can hurt to change old habits! But in retrospect you'll be most grateful to yourself for that change. doens't it hurt to wallow in your current habits...!?
Sometimes change is fast sometimes slow. Be gentle with yourself if it is slow. use every opportunity to make your future better and feel good at every moment. Try the LSC coaching. Put your name on the SFQ healing list. Trust yourself and your friends.
my 2cents,
-purjo
[This message has been edited by purjo (edited October 03, 2005).]
