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I'm having problems with the "release" part, due to an overwheling self-hatred. Just yesterday, I was actually yelling at the "Being" tape for being so dishonest as to call me a good or worthy person. I have a lot of guilt and anger at myself for things I've done. I keep trying to tell myself that I was doing the best my current level of awareness allowed, and that I am clearly in the present moment now with the chance to create the destiny I desire. However, I'm not buying it.

Speaking of buying it, my live-in girlfriend was fired today. Do feel free to mention tapes, though, as I have a small-but-sincere collection of 'em.

Jose Silva said guilt is only worthwhile as a survival technique. 3 conditions need to be met in order for guilt to cease to be a survival technique.

1. If you did wrong to someone, try to apologize or make an attempt.

2. Have you learned the lessons you needed to learn? I'm 100% sure NO lesson ever has to do w/ self hatred as a goal.

3. Have you made a committment to not do it again? Have you made an earnest attempt to committ to change?

If you can answer these questions---then guilt has NO survival value in your present day life. It's time to move on

It's also your choice. Is your life better off w/ self hatred and guilt in it? If so, how so? Or, is your life better off w/ self hatred and guilt released from it?

Sometimes it's easier to hate ourselves because it keeps us from changing. I've seen a number of people who desperately want to change & yet refuse to let go of a belief system that destroys any hope of change.

So, if you have harmed someone & have yet to apologize...then maybe that's something to look at.

Or, if you have refused to learn the needed lessons as a result of your actions--then maybe that's another reason you still feel guilty.

Or, if you have refused to make a committment to change, then maybe that's also a reason you still feel guilty.

BUT, if you have said sorry-sorry. And, if you understand what you needed to learn. And if you are committed to changing your self-----------then dump the guilt trip b/c it is not helping you in any manner.

Ask yourself this... for all the perceived wrongs that you feel angry towards yourself about... would you still be holding it against someone else? Would you be prepared to forgive some else if they did what you feel guilty about? Suggest you use the self esteem supercharger. You deserve as much respect from yourself as you would give to another.

Alex

Intellectually I'm sure you know that you ARE a worthy and worthwhile person, but memories from your past history are trying to convince you that what you've done before somehow makes you a bad person now. The things you do don't mean that's who you are. We make choices, and a choice is a decision, whether good or bad, at a specific moment in time. Sometimes we can make so many of the same types of choices that we begin to identify with them. We can choose to identify with the bad choices, or we can decide to identify with the good choices - that too is a choice.

There may be consequences to the choices you've made, and it could be that you have to live with them, but it doesn't mean that you have to identify with them. A single choice does not constitute the whole of your identity. Consider this: the very fact that you have remorse over your past means that you're not the terrible person you think you are. If you really were a terrible person you wouldn't be feeling any remorse.

Do you want to experience the ultimate release? I don't know about your religious affiliations, but God loves you as you are right now in this moment. You don't have to suffer for past wrongs because He's alreday taken care of that for you. What a deal! We've all made mistakes. We've all sinned, and everyone, no matter how good they may seem, falls short of God's glory.

We may think that we can't possibly be forgiven for our mistakes, and so we never even forgive ourselves. But God says I've come that you may have life and have it more abundantly. God sent his Son to be the ultimate sacrifice so you could know what it is to be truly free. He said, "Come to me all who are heavy laden and I will give you Rest". You don't need to change. Just realize that the God of the universe loves you. He cares about you. He forgives all that you've ever done in the past - you just have to ask Him.

You may wonder how God could ever forgive when you can't even forgive yourself. He already knows all the things we've ever done... and loves us anyway. You may feel like hiding from God. You may even feel like hiding from the world. You may wonder how you could possibly face Him after what you've done. Because He's merciful. He loves you in spite of any mistake you could ever possibly make. And if HE forgives you, that's the only thing that really matters. Nothing that anyone else can say means beans.

It takes courage to face God that way. It takes faith. But when you do, you'll know a release that will transcend anything you ever thought possible. If not, you'll never know for yourself the kind of release that only God can give.

I know this may be a lot to digest if it's something you've never considered. Believe me, it's worth your time to explore it further, but if it's something you just can't bring yourself to do right now, then I would suggest New History Generator to help you release the history of your past. Still, I encourage you to talk to a pastor of a good church in your area. Many of the larger churches have counselors on staff. It's free, and you won't have to wait for shipping!

Blessings2u,
Bob

Hi!

Use the paraliminaltape called Self-Esteem Supercharger. This is good, if you're having problems with good vs. bad feelings about yourself (your self-esteem, in any kind of way).

You will learn to FEEL GOOD about:
Who you are.
What you have learned from the past.
Love yourself (instead of hate).

K.