namrekca7,
I don't know what that person replied to you, but you should be able to install some new behaviours with instantaneous personal magnetism ... and get yourself belief and rid yourself of the false belief that you can 'only grow as far as you are wired'!
You are capable of becoming whatever you want! So get yourself a few role-models, whip out Instantaneous Personal Magnetism and the New Behavior Generator and any other paraliminal that you may have and get crackin'!

good luck

Stefan