namrekca7,
Check out the anxiety free tape. Your posts and tone seem yo imply that you are anxious to perform well and lacking confidence. Nothing gives a person a more attractive personality than honest self confidence. Self confidence allows you to use humour with more ease, because you become less afaid to say something wrong. Self confidence is also what attracts other confident people into your life.
Also the New History Generator could be helpful to you. You seem to be deeply rooted to your past experiences with relationships. The New History Generator will help you to learn from the past, use what worked and move on toward your goal.
Start with the anxiety free tape if you've got it. If not use the New Behaviour Generator and work on developing self confidence to start with. Once you start bringing self confidence into your life you find that insecurities fall aside anyway and you naturally lighten up and develop more good humour. In which case the Personal Magnetism tape will work much better for you. Afterall if you can see the quality in another person you would like to exibit you can definately model it yourself. You wouldn't notice it if you didn't already have some of the skils within yourself to build on.
Alex