A little echo of Ascending1's words and taken from Paul's mouth (whether that is the true starting place I don't know). My answers are not everyone's answers. My goal is to help others even if it means not coming to my answer.
When I engage in conversation. I gently bring up the topic and follow as seems natural for the people involved. For some situations it is not appropriate to raise the topic and so sending my good wishes in the form I feel is appropriate. I follow my judgement and believe it guides true.
You are perfection.
Iam2 
