Hi Stacy,
-Helping others, 'greatly' enhances 'self' healing. It is an unselfish act that comes back to you tenfold. This is really emphasized by Master Lin. Keep up the good work. Your own 'immediate' health issues will open up faster, after helping others 'and then' working on yourself through active exercise and meditation.
- I don't limit the term 'self healing' to an existing physical blockage. I see it as an ongoing thing, unlocking or discovering one's potential, basic truths, gaining wisdom and understanding, insight, inner vision, expressing love at higher levels,,,lots of things that take continual pursuit. Are you really healed until fully self realized? That could be a long wait!
- I think you have an innate sense of the truth about what you are speaking of. Trust that sense.
- With respect to your friend, his perspective could limit you. Handle your relationship , regarding the 'sharing' of healer stuff, more carefully, perhaps keeping more to yourself about your work. Let them do the talking, and be as understanding as you can of 'their' possible limitations, placed on them by their method. Also, some people empower themselves, limiting other people. It isn't a conscious intention, just their perspective on what they think you are doing.
- One can experience anothers blockage. One can have teaching dreams, as I call them, where you are given the chance to learn something, about something you are, or will be dealing with. One can also be dealing with something really toxic, like someone who has been given, say , chemotherapy. It might energetically feel like trying to wash tar off of your dog. Your hands can get pretty dirty... Regarding all of these possibilities, your level I active is a very effective means of cleaning yourself, keeping any extra energy moving through and out of you, or giving you a tool to work on something specific, perhaps from an empathetic experience, and learn how to work with it, in yourself, then help someone else. The nice part about, say level I active exercises, is that you don't have to know, it just works, and is great for self healing. I hear you mention small universe , which is also good, but I prefer an active exercise for self healing effectiveness, supplemented(at least in the beginning) with small universe. It is good to be doing something with visualization that moves 'out' extra energy, or blockages. Active exercises, level I , has that. Try incorporating those, if you haven't, and see what effect it has one your state of being, regarding your migrains. My experience, and everyone is different, was that level I active was/is very effective for physical blockages. For me small universe requires more maturing time, to be as effective. Level I really focuses on the lower dan tien, which is your 'physical' body energy center. The earth is very effective in taking negative energy from us, or redistributing extra energy. If you don't have time to do active exercises, at least sit down on the ground, put your hands down on the earth, breath in from the universe and visualize new balanced energy coming in, and anything you don't want, going into the earth(with respectfulness). If you want to be a successful qigong healer, I would use the exercises to move you forward, and better understand what is what , or where something is coming from, or the best way to know you are taking care of everything you aren't aware of. Keep your practice as simple, and complete as possible, regarding self maintainence. You have taken on alot of material.
It is odd that your friend said that , because of your personality, you WILL take on everyones problems, and make yourself ill. This is not a good thing to say. Don't take that in, and support that perspective. As I said, I can tell from your post, that you have a good idea that something better is possible,,,and it is.