Yippee I can post agin !!!!!!!!!!! For some weird reason I could not post after the new forums started last spring. I would log in, etc but it would not accept my posts.
Anyway, Last winter and spring I was having a lot of lower back pain - I kept using "Perfect Health" with no results. One day while lying in bed in pain I simply asked myself: Why does my back hurt ? - almost instantly I had tears running down my cheeks with the reoccuring thought "I miss my dad". The complete process/story is over on the Abundance forum under "Back pain / represed stress? "
Through some coaching, Alex suggested:
"Once you have done the Inquiry Process you will probably notice a bit of relief. You then may want to use the Personal Relationship Paraliminal. Your father is always a part of you in your mind and in your heart. Having done the Inquiry Process you will realise what kind of relationship you want with him and the Personal Relationship Paraliminal will be the one that helps you to stay focused on having that kind of relationship whenever you think of him.
The reason I recommend the Inquiry Process, you mentioned your father hated the place and begged you to get him out every time you saw him. And you explained that there really wasn't another alternative. However it seems you still feel guilty about it. You need to work through that guilt and probable anger at your father for making you feel bad about putting him in the nursing home when you didn't have any other option.
Paraliminals can only help so much in this case. You might try the New History Generator to gain a different reaction to your fathers desire not to be in the nursing home. However I think the Inquiry Process will give you the most empowering results under the circumstances."
Well, I did not do the inquiry process - but I did do "New History Generator" once and "Positive Relationship" once - and here is the amazing thing:
I have had no further back problems/pain.
All Winter and spring I had had a pronounced longing to visit his grave (it's 10 hours away so I had not been back since he passed away in November and had not seen his marker) After listening to the 2 paraliminals that obsession turned into a "I would like to see the marker" - a calm desire vs an obsession filled with grief. I went to visit my dad's grave in June and I sat down there on the ground and it was very peaceful and comforting - no grief - just peaceful connection.
Without Alex's coaching I would never have thought to use those 2 paraliminals. But once they were suggested and why it made perfect sense. I never would have thought about the fact that I still have a relationship with him but I do even if it is just in my mind.
Long story short: the paraliminals work and the coaching is very beneficial. Thank you Learning Strategies for the wonderful set up!
Lisa
