Hi AeB:
A couple of things I picked up in your note:
1) the woman
must be
attractive .
2) you get weak in the knees talking to attractive women.
Which, in my estimation means either you don't have enough confidence yet to approach attractive women, or you really don't want to date them. Your physical responses could be telling you something very valid here.
My suggestion would be to widen the field a bit. Eliminate the "must be attractive" part - unless you're a
Lothario yourself, seems kind of spiritually blind to demand that the
only woman you'd be satisfied with must be attractive. There are probably lots of less than attractive, but still not too hard on the eyes ladies who might actually fit more easily into your value system than an outwardly attractive woman. Then again, if attractive IS an absolute in your value system, well, that may be where you need to start looking - is attractive something that just cannot be compromised?
No books or courses to suggest, although you might consider using one or more of the Paraliminals to get in touch with what you do want, and programming for it. Also, if you've used some of the other courses here, perhaps you might re-investigate how you could use them to help you do this. Sit down and really define what it is you are seeking in a relationship (not just the "attractive" part) - and also define what it is in you that must be fulfilled by each of those areas. Then you'll be able to more easily be drawn toward someone who fits into your life more comfortably.
Cheers!
Unis
