Thanks Hartree
I find it very difficult to be true to myself, when forces outside of me say my love is not true, I then accept others truth and invalidate my own.
It's the whole thing of interacting with others expressing your truth, accepting the others truth, and knowing that we know our own maps of our own territory better than anybody else, and that others know their own maps better than we do ourselves. The problem comes when we think that we know their truth, or that they know our truth. Or somebody comes a long and says this is THE TRUTH about you and invalidates who you are.
What do you think of the above?
For instance if we make a mistake and somebody gives us an identity label for all time, and we swallow the label for ourselves, but it is not really us, we then think we are what others think of us, and have lost self-concept, because it is stolen from us.
Or even worse...
For instance if somebody says "God told me you're ..." they claim to speak from absolute truth.
Or another one just as bad..."I had a dream revelation that you..." they also claim to speak from absolute truth.
One can lose their self-trust in their own self-concept and feel powerless to remove the label or choose otherwise because the label is the ABSOLUTE TRUTH.
