We are all able to change and one thing that may help is accepting yourself as you are. And make changes from there. I like the Personal Celebration set for this and Self Esteem Supercharger. And I would experiment with Creating Sparks using yourself as the significant other and have a healing relationship. And for reading, Philip G. Zimbardo has a book called Shyness: What It Is, What to Do About It. I know that the exercises explained will help you find friends, handle feelings that come up. And finding other specialist and resources. You must also remember that you are not alone in this, millions of other peole are experiencing this. But you have the courage to ask help and change.