I remember as a young student in martial arts looking at others students having a hard time with the exercises given. And I identified with other students and even beat myself for having the same problems. Yet my problems were also rooted somewhere else. And that mirror exact or distored was and is an awareness to grow. Now 40 years later in my own club I have come to now realize that this is not something that you judge yourself with. But is a gift. Be thankful for it. The reality of the gift is to be aware of it. I myself employee the Genius Code for this and have a good counseller do the work with me. And again I am re-reading the book Meeting the Shadow
The hidden power of the Darkside of Human Nature.
Hope this helps.