Yes, paraliminals work- choose your outcome and relax. Positive Relationships and New History Generator might be good ones here. There are several professional counsleors here who choose them for their own personal work!
Aside from that, there is a communication strategy called W.I.N. that can be used in all kinds of difficult situations. It goes like this:
When ----- happens, I feel -------. I need ---------.
or
When I hear people say ------, I feel-------. I need------.
So you own your responses. You get to have accountability, and so do others. Everybody has an opportunity to solve problems. Owning your own response gives you power, because it means nobody makes you feel something- it means that you choose your response to them!
Besides...they will not know how you feel if you do not say...
If the situation still does not improve, then you need to ask your self if you want to stay.
You might ask yourself why you have been staying in an abusive environment...and if this is the kind of environment you want to work in? If not, then is is probably time to get your resume out and ask around for opportuntities...dont suddenly quit- get another job and THEN quit.
You might also ask yourself (and maybe others) why people have been so harsh with you. Is there a reason for them to be envious or upset ? If so, what can you do differently, what can you improve? You can have power by choosing to be accountable- not by being a victim.
vitaman
