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Hello everyone. I am new to paraliminals. A friend gave me a couple of CDs which I have been listening to for 1 week now. I was quite impressed with the way it is recorded but am wondering if paraliminals truly work.

I read quite a few messages and it seems some people have seen results almost immediately - but I have not. At least not yet anyway.

I am going through a lot of negativity right now in my life and no matter what I do, I can't seem to move past it.

You see, I am the problem. At least I am believing what people around me are telling me. These people are work colleagues. They treat me like a child (I am 47 years old!) and I really feel bullied by them. No matter what I do, I get into trouble and then come home feeling hopeless and useless.

In the past 3 months, the colleagues have said or done things that are truly hurtful. I know they don't mean it, and are simply either blurting it out without thinking or are just being playful. But the things they say and the labels they give me are quite hurtful and make me react in a way which makes them say bad things about me more. Before, they used to say it behind my back. Today, they are openly telling me to my face what an idiot I am.

The main problem here is that they think I have a thick skin, which I don't. I have even had a conversation with my boss about it but she has, it seems, forgotten her part or authority, and gets in on the fun with my team mates. She calls me a compulsive liar (although she has not been able to tell me why she thinks so, of me) and tells everyone that I never shut up or I have imaginary friends. This is very hurtful and I just don't have the courage to tell her and my team mates to leave me alone.

I guess I am writing here because I really need help. Otherwise, I can see myself throwing a hot cup of coffee on the next person who calls me a grump or a liar which will only result into me losing my job.

I don't understand why people can be so mean. These "adults" don't even stop to think how all this is affecting me. To them, it's all fun - and when it is not, when I go on the defensive and shut up for hours -they think I am 'sulking" or being difficult yet again. They don't realize it is their bullying that drives me to my reaction.

I have been listening to anxiety free and positive thinking paraliminals for 1 week and don't see any result. So I am wondering, do they really help? I get into the listening session with an open mind and heart and ready to absorb the suggestions.

If they work, then can someone tell me what is preventing me from seeing the results even after 1 week of listening.

Please and thanks in advance.

Hi

Now I know you said, you have been using the anxiety free, yet could you list the others that you are using as well, as positive thinking paraliminals does not fill in that gap, some times listening to paraliminals, can take a few more listening sessions, when a particular, issue as been present for a long time. And one week is a short, and an issues that you are working on as been apart of life for a number of years, a little flexibility with you self might give you a better result.

Having dealt with bullies, on behalf of other many times, here is a few ideas that you might like to play with.

If you had a perfect day how would you see, hear and feel that day? What would you be saying to your self, how would you be holding your body?

How does feeling confident feel to you?

And would you be willing to do this for real for a few days?

If you could imagine all your not so good memories as little black and while pictures, and turn the sound off, could you just imagine doing that? And how does that work of taking the impact out of those memories?

Can you imagine stepping in to a host of good memories? And having them good feelings run through your body? And if you could choose and good feeling what would you like to choose?

Your environment, host a lot of conditioned response anchors, so every time you go in to the place you work, they fire off, so if you would like to play, just a few minutes, just imagine, if you would that you have a huge bad of juggling balls, and each ball as a fantastic empowering emotion implanted in to it, now just imagine in your mind, that you are walking all around the place where you work, and place one of these energy balls in secret places, all over the place, under desk, in draws, in filing cabernets, under chairs, behind pictures, behind water coolers, every where you can imagine, and all this empowering energy, to fill the work place, and everything and every one in it.

Step in to the future, by 2 years, and having everything be just perfect, and notice all them energy balls are still there, glowing and creating a wonderful work place, just for you, now come back and bring all that really good stuff back with you.

See, hear and feel your self getting on, just fine, with first yourself, and then every one else, and see what happens. Start off each day, seeing your day be just wonderful, and you will notice in a short time that things change.

Yes, paraliminals work- choose your outcome and relax. Positive Relationships and New History Generator might be good ones here. There are several professional counsleors here who choose them for their own personal work!

Aside from that, there is a communication strategy called W.I.N. that can be used in all kinds of difficult situations. It goes like this:

When ----- happens, I feel -------. I need ---------.
or
When I hear people say ------, I feel-------. I need------.

So you own your responses. You get to have accountability, and so do others. Everybody has an opportunity to solve problems. Owning your own response gives you power, because it means nobody makes you feel something- it means that you choose your response to them!

Besides...they will not know how you feel if you do not say...

If the situation still does not improve, then you need to ask your self if you want to stay.

You might ask yourself why you have been staying in an abusive environment...and if this is the kind of environment you want to work in? If not, then is is probably time to get your resume out and ask around for opportuntities...dont suddenly quit- get another job and THEN quit.

You might also ask yourself (and maybe others) why people have been so harsh with you. Is there a reason for them to be envious or upset ? If so, what can you do differently, what can you improve? You can have power by choosing to be accountable- not by being a victim.

vitaman

By the way- if you are in Canada, and your supervisor is telling others that you are a compuslive liar and have imaginary friends, she is breaking the law, and the company she works for can be brought in front of the Human Rights Tribunal. Also check out your provinces Labor Standards Act.

vitaman

Thank you vitaman for your response.

And, I have told them how I feel in action and words but one of them told me "you know it's all endearment!!!!" I felt more insulted because he thought I was a fool or something. Once or twice a month is okay but not every single day and multiple times a day. This person who tried to minimize my upset also calls me "bi-polar" because I am a happy person by nature but it doesn't take much (according to him) to tick me off.

In the last 1 year, I have been given so many labels and it is all since the new boss started. Before she started, I was known as a hardworking good worker and didn't have anyone 'bothering' me so to speak.

You didn't mention where I can look up the W.I.N. strategy so I can get started on it. I will see if my friend has the two paraliminals you mentioned, if not, I think it will be a great gift to myself, from myself for the new year.

Thank you again for your thoughts and suggestions.

Hi Jay186

Right now, my friend only gave me the two. I will see if he has more tapes. Vitaman suggested 2 of them which sounds like they would be better for me – especially positive relationship as I am not too sure how new history generate would work.

I was, I think getting impatient as I did not see immediate results as others have – but I am glad to hear that you also think I need to give it more time. But I was also wondering that maybe I wasn’t using the tapes the right way, but I guess that’s not it. I just need to give it time.

If I understand your suggestions correctly, you are asking me to go to work with a positive attitude and feel the invisible support from these energy balls? Hmmm, it sounds difficult because I always go in to work with “I am going to have a great day” affirmation. I also listen to subliminals at work to keep my positive mood. But haven’t been too successful – that is why a friend suggested paraliminals.

But, I will try. I will definitely visualize the energy balls or at least visualize talking to one of you from the forum here every time I feel attacked.

Thank you....

That is all there is to the W.I.N. strategy. Simple. Effective.

When
I
Need

All you need to get started is to say to the other person (fill in the blanks)
"When-----happens, I feel -----. I need-------. "

example: When (someone calls me an idiot), I feel (hurt). I need (to be treated in a respectful way)."

Say "I" rather than "you". That simple. Stay calm and rational, simply state it.

You could also try assuming the others do mean endearment...staff at my workplace tease each other relentlessly. Whenever a line is crossed, it is said- then everyone knows to not go that far or that direction with the person. It is a very healthy workplace!

Yes. Make an investment in yourself.

spend 29 dollars and order the secret at thesecret.tv and listen to self-esteem generator

no..it's also in book and audio book formats...it has no hypnosis...it's just all about reminding us of our own power .....there are many stories and teachings on it...you'd just have to watch it or go to amazon and read the reviews on it..they put it into words that...well...say it all...search for The secret dvd on amazon