Hi, lovefungus,
Your reply was plenty articulate. Your paraliminals problem is much clearer since you gave some specifics. Having been young in the '60s and '70s, I recall a teacher friend who smoked pot before leaving for school in the mornings. He claimed he needed it to face his classes.
Having just spent a day with close relatives during which I was aware of the dysfunctional relationships in my family (although they wouldn't acknowledge it), that would be something to tackle with my Sonic Access Relationship CD. I've only had the program one week, and just using the Success CD for a problem I have with clutter and disorganization.
Good luck. When you have paraliminals success with these problems, I'd like to hear about it.