Hi Baba,
You hit right to the point again. I've been feeling sometimes uneasy around NLP, SFQ, and other combinations of three letters
They all seem so one-sided. Or maybe it simply is the way we people tend to generalize things that creates the cultish institutional aura? For example, let's take someone who has decided to teach some skills he/she has, to other people. Some people learn the skills, some don't. Some people learn only the surface of the things taught, not the content. As a result they learn to repeat a certain sequence of thoughts, words, movements, etc. without any idea what they are doing it for. They trust the apparent magnetism of the teacher and feel good around him/her. That's why they think he/she is teaching the right thing. And they go home to repeat the sequence they have learned. And come back to see the teacher. And trust him/her. Without learning the content. This way the teacher's teachings become institutionalized and peopel start to "know" there is one and only one way to learn it. yikes!
But does the teacher know a way to teach his/her skills in an effective way? Probably not.
How can you learn only the useful things from, say, NLP? Avoiding the cultish parts? A difficult question. I think it's in the human nature to be drawn to anything cultish, so i guess I have to accept the cultish nature of the three-letter-comination for a while. But I'm also sure there is a chance to withdraw at some point and back up a bit. See what's going on. Accept what seems to be useful. Reject things that do not feel right. And keep an open mind.
Now, OK, I'm not referring to anyone in this forum, so nobody should take offence. It's just that this topic of seeing/understanding the whole picture keeps my brain occupied. I'm fascinated about it. Like it's very close to the meaning of my life. Communication. Effective communication.
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