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1. Why do completely unexpected things attract to us?

I think you know why, deep down, without having to ask this question. And I think here is one of the many places where you find the holes in the assumptions behind the LoA.

Life is not dependent upon your wishes. Life exists as a series of patterns that occur both inside and outside of you, the vast majority of which are affected very little (or not at all) by the activities of your mind. This is why there are so few Gandhis in the world. It's also why problems like global warming exist. We cannot wish away violent behaviors of people and systems. We cannot simply wish away the consequences of our actions.

While many people give lip service to beliefs like the LoA, many know intuitively that it's complete garbage. It's just something they like to think because it makes them feel good. But it does not inform their behaviors. A gut level understanding of reality does. This is why we have few people engaging in extremely self-destructive behaviors. They know what they do has consequences and the world is ruled by something other than wishes and fantasies.

Even the most adamant and vocal adherent on this forum belies their deep down lack of belief in this hoo-hah in their sane, everyday behaviors. They don't wish up food, for instance. They actually manage to acquire it like we all do and feed themselves.

Part of maturity is realizing that it isn't all about you. Thinking that everything is about you, that it all has something to do with you and your wishes, fears, dreams, hopes, aspirations, etc. is narcissism. It's unhealthy.

So, it's best to realize that you are not the center of the universe. Life existed before you and will continue long after you're gone. Everyone has their own concerns, and sometimes plans go awry despite your best efforts.

Life isn't about you. It isn't all created by you. This is a good thing. This means you can learn, grow, be surprised, and experience novelty and curiosity. It means you can BE ALIVE and LIVE.

Life isn't a series of reruns of your internal fantasies, and this is a good thing.

2.What are some things I can do every day to attract more good stuff to me?

You can't do anything to "attract" good stuff to yourself. You can, however, do many things that have a great possibility of having positive results. Exercising, for instance, can lead to a healthier, stronger body and better health.

Playing challenging mental games can likewise improve your mind and strengthen your brain. Being pleasant to people typically leads to them being pleasant to you. But there are no guarantees.

3. What could I visualize to bring more good relationships with girls into my life?

Milton Erickson said you can pretend anything and master it (or something like that). He wasn't saying, I think, that you can "manifest" or "attract" realities to yourself.

I believe he was saying that there are definite benefits from mental rehearsal. It's sort of a fake it till you make it thing. You act as if and approximate using your best guess and learn from the experiences you generate as a result.

Visualization can do many positive things for you, it can make you expect good results and give you confidence. It can enrich your mental representations of whatever you want.

Visualize having enjoyable conversations and relations with women you like and maybe finding one that's just right for you. Maybe it'll help it happen? Not in any magical way, but it will make you more sensitive to what you need to find that right person, and it'll help you enjoy meeting and talking with girls and relating to them in enjoyable ways.

4. Which paraliminal(s) would help me out a bit with the LoA?

In my experience, most of the LSC products are informed by this particular belief system, so if you want to reinforce your belief in it, any of them will support you in that endeavor.

Prosperity is one.

The whole Abundance for Life course is based on the LoA premise.

I like the course, personally, but my take on it is probably very different than that which was intended. I don't believe you attract anything and that manifestation is mostly a psychological phenomenon. It's more like manifesting a glass of water by thinking about moving your keester to the kitchen, getting out a glass, getting out the water pitcher, pouring it into the glass, picking the glass up, putting it to your lips and swallowing.

See, there is a lot of you, reality, and what you do involved.

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Long story short:

You know in your gut, most likely, that this LoA stuff is nonsense. You also know in your gut all the answers to the questions you just asked. You know what you have to do and you know what is right for you.

Sometimes we need friends to reflect ourselves back at us and tease out what we need to do. I think if you gave the issue a good thinking over, you'd come up with your own answers yourself and that they'd work for you.

Meeting and partnering with girls generally means going out and giving yourself the opportunity to do so. It means making yourself attractive: caring for yourself (hygiene and grooming), having a sense of style and fashion, being able to hold a conversation and present yourself as an interesting person, and also having some consideration for social dynamics which can seem counter-intuitive to a lot of people.

If visualization and wishes worked instead of actually learning good social skills and hoofing it, every male would be partnered with the woman of their dreams. We think about sex just about every 57 seconds, supposedly.