Hi, Gabby!
You DO help, just by replying! It's nice to know someone else will take me seriously and try to offer suggestions!
(I hope I have this figured out how to respond to only you so I'm not confessing the following to the whole universe!) You seemed to hit the nail on the head right off. No, I can't detect blockages yet, & it's very frustrating! I also think you're wise in pointing out that we seem to be too close to some people to help them, as my son is very dear to me & of course I'm probably too desperate to help him!
Your advise to try & treat him like anyone else is good, I'm going to try it. Good luck on your work with your wife & mom!
Thanks again for the support!