Hello Deborah,
From what Jay wrote, it sounds like he is writing from personal experience! I totally agree with him that you need to eat more calories. If you are looking to lose weight, first establish how many daily calories you need to maintain weight. Then subtract 5oo calories from this in order to lose about 1 pound per week.
As a rough guide don't allow your calorie level to fall below your basal metabolic rate (BMR) - the number of calories your body expends by doing nothing. An average basal metabolic rate for many women is about 1500 calories a day.
I too struggled with weight loss and in my search for the solution I found out that one thing most people neglect from their "Diet and Exercise Routine" is... rest. 8 hours of sleep, so the body can recover. Are you resting enough?
Also, I never really gave this much thought but... "Where does the fat that you lose go?" It doesn't magically disappear. The fastest way fat leaves the body is in the Urine. Are you drinking water? 64 ounces a day is the minimum recommended (eight 8 oz glasses).
I'm listening to the Ideal Weight Paraliminal to control my appetite and to eat healthier foods. I'm happy to report it is working. Deborah, please update us on your success!!!