Tonight I had a good chat with a gent who has been semi-coaching me over the last while about pretty much the same thing you've written about. Here are some of his suggestions, which I intend to follow immediately:
1) Stop talking negatively to yourself and others about yourself. Every time you catch yourself saying something negative (even if only in your head to yourself), say "Cancel, Cancel", thank yourself for the awareness, and immediately replace it with something positive, or ask yourself the most positive question you can about your current situation. The voice that is inside that constantly critisizes you is a remmant (more than likely) of tapes others played for you long ago - it will become silent and stop bugging you when you decide that you are much better, much more talented, etc., than it has ever given you credit for being. Then be THAT person NOW.
2) Before you go to bed tonight (or in the morning, if you don't read this until them) write down ONE thing that you must get done tomorrow. It doesn't have to be anything huge or necessarily in line with your goals (but it would be wonderful if you did choose that) - just so that you hold yourself accountable for getting that one thing done, and doing it to the best of your ability BEFORE you move on to other things you normally busy yourself with in your day.
3) Do the same thing for the next several days, and when you are comfortable with getting ONE thing done each day, move it up a notch to TWO things done, and so on.
There is a saying I heard somewhere that if you want to get something done give it to the busiest person you know. Sometimes we keep ourselves "busy", but not necessarily productive, but once we learn the pattern of getting things done, our confidence level goes up, and we can become that person that is busy AND productive.
Trusting this helps a bit....
Cheers!
Unis
