I wouldn't be using the Belief Paraliminal for that I'd be using Instantaneous Personal Magnetism. You've identified how you want to be percieved and that is what Instantaneous Personal Magnetism is for. It's not so much your belief you need to change but your behaviour so that it matches the identity that you want to have in 'social' situation/
As for the fact that people revert to old behaviours and patterns. Paraliminals will help you create new neural networks that give you new choices like the belief that you are a non smoker having quit smoking some 3 or more years ago. Suddenly you experience a life challenging or alarming event and you find yourself smoking again. People mistakenly believe that they have fallen off the wagon where in fact they grab the most reliable security blanket available to them in that experience. The neural pathways for dealing with such an episode was stronger for the smoker persona than the non smoker.
Research found that the old pathways don't cease to exist and die down. They just don't get as much attention as the new one and the option is always available. So don't feel badly when you seem to slip back into the old way. It means something in your environment triggered that as a better option and you have the choice if you choose to recognise that new identity that you want to have hasn't got the coping mechanisms yet and you just need to check out what triggered the leap to use the old pattern and work on that with another Paraliminal.
The belief Paraliminal is better suited to beliefs like I'm bad at organising my work, I can't learn new things, I have a terrible memory.
Reading your post I see that you are not so much trying to fix your belief but want to change other people's belief about you. You'll get further with Instantaneous Personal Magnetism for that.
Alex
