Hi Oxygen. That was my whole point for writing the post. I “needed” Alex’s suggestion and thoughts. But, I got a bonus from everyone else who posted and shared their thoughts. I am grateful. Thank you!
In the end, the decision is ALWAYS mine. What I had been doing before the post was not working for me so I needed the help - you see.
I am however quite baffled about how so many of you ended up thinking that I am “bothered” with other people’s opinion of me. My statement about being “chatty” and how I would not care about what people say about me is not the essence of my feelings. My reaction is.
It is, what “I do” which makes them comment. It is my “reaction” to their comments that I would like to change. I can’t change people or their thoughts. I am well aware of that (especially since December 2006). So my purpose for writing was to seek guidance on what it is that I need to do, to react differently.
I thought, I would have to change my behaviour – but Tony Robbins pointed out that behaviour is temporary – I would have to change beliefs to nail a permanent solution. Hence the belief paraliminal.
My life has improved tremendously since December 2006. I was thinking of hurting myself seriously because of the way I was being treated at work. Through LS and BS, I have my sanity back and am actually enjoying life. I have started to expect more from myself and life. It gives me hope – that is why I wanted to prepare myself to stop behaving like “Bridget Jones” for the lack of a better explanation.
I need a partner. I am told my Bridget Jones personality is what is keeping me from getting what I want. Hence, the change in behaviour/personality/beliefs and identity.
Trust me, I am doing nothing else but thinking about it. I honestly don’t care what people say about me – but when they say it to someone else (i.e. potential boyfriend) then that is a problem!
And oh by the way – I got bored with “Feeling Good” by David Burns. It is a great book, I am sure – but I can’t be bothered doing all those exercises. (another shortfall I have to work on!)
I do appreciate your post - thank you muchly!
