Forums IMPORTANT: PLEASE READ Paraliminals, Paraliminal Resets, Paraliminal Walkabouts, Natural Brilliance, Sonic Access Fear of Rejection

I've used the Self esteem supercharger tape for the past 6 weeks and it has really helped me to almost completely get out of depression and have a more positive view of myself and life. However, I still have a big fear of being rejected by everyone I meet, and even friends I have known for years. I agonise over it all the time, and I'm sure it effects how I act with people at the time as well. I know it's probably due to being bulied when I was younger and constantly being made to feel stupid and annoying, when I had low self esteem (especially about my lisp which is now almost cured - thank AlexK for your advice!!). How can I get over this fear of rejection? I tried belief to stop the belief that people will be annoyed with me, and it has helped, but I still agonise over it all the time. What paraliminal tapes would be most effective?

My suggestion would be Sales Leap. One of the abilities that a sales person needs is self confidence and the ability to handle rejection of the product or service without taking it personally.

In a sense you still sell your ideas when you are communicating with other people, even in social settings... often a rejection of the idea is perceived as a rejection of you as a person.

Alex

Howdy. I just ordered the Self-esteem Supercharger because I was dealing with some of the same things. I already have the New Behavior Generator, but the fear and the insecurity have severely limited my success with it. Based on your response, I am not sure if the self-esteem tape is really going to help me very much. Shouldn't a tape for self-esteem cure, or at least help with the fear of rejection? Isn't that a self-esteem issue? Since money is pretty tight right now, I can't afford to keep buying new tapes over and over. I haven't gotten the tape yet and I'm not sure if I bought the right one now. Is it possible that using the self-esteem tape over a long period of time would help with this problem?

I would still get Self Esteem supercharger if I was you. It has helped me amazingly. I no longer beat myself up over all of my faults, I allow myself to be much more positive and hopeful, and I think my self esteem and confidence has increased a lot. I think the rejection issue is something separate from my self confidence issue that I've has since I was a very small child. I will still listen to the self esteem supercharger as well because I stil think it can help me a lot with this problem as well.
Could I use anxiety-free for this as well?

Self Esteem Supercharger is an excellent tape. I suggested Sales Leap as because David was already using Self Esteem Supercharger and sounded like he's hit a plateau. Anxiety Free would also work. It adds variety. It's that variety that can often give you that boost and momentum
and help to make the first tape you're working with move along again.

Hoss-

Trust your intuition - Nearly all and any of the paraliminals can be used to achieve the whatever results you desire. What is important is the goal you set in your mind when you use the tapes that brings the results you desire not the tapes by themselves. As odd as it sounds even the Memory Supercharger can be used to raise your self esteem. (by remembering all the times you behaved in a way that was empowering.)

The questions that Paul asks at the beginning of the paraliminal sessions are helpful but they can also cause you to fall into a rut with your answers. So by just changing the paraliminal you have different questions you often come up with different answers. Naturally it is easier to pick a paraliminal from the entire selection that is closer to the outcome you desire. However even a selection of only 2 to 5 paraliminal tapes can be used to trigger positive directions towards just about any conceivable goal. It does take a bit of imagination and creative thinking to word your goals.

The Self Esteem Supercharger is definately one I would select before Sales Leap and many of the other paraliminals.

Alex

Try Natural Brilliance! It really helped me with the same sort of issue. I had a problem fully relaxing and expressing myself around people for fear of negative judgement. In the course your asked what present and future negatives you are trying to eliminate. In this situation, my present negative not being able to express myself, the future negative was if I do express myself, will I be abdoned. It was really the feelings that I was working with. For present and future positives; present I was motaviated to improve in many ways, future postive I wanted to be confident and express myself fully around others. Honestly its worth the investment, find a way to afford it. You won't regret it.

Thanks! DAVIDAR, have you noticed any other changes in your life that are not directly related to self-esteem? I know a lot of folks say that raising your self-esteem can make changes that, on the surface, don't appear to have anything to do with self image.

There is an easy way to get past this problem.

Your fear is a results of your beliefs about how other people are (to you). Changing these beliefs will change your life forever. Surely Self-Esteem Supercharger can help to feel secure and good on a day to day going basis, especially if you use the tape reguarly. But the real change comes when changing your beliefs.

How do you look at people, since you feel they will reject you? What do think they will do and why should they reject you?
How is the world about other people?
Will it not be greater if you could change your world to one filled with love for you, that other people really love you, that other people really like to talk to you, love to hear what you have to say, that they really like you??

Try to find your beliefs, and change them to some really good ones.

How? Use the paraliminal tape called: Beliefs.

Use it everyday for 2 months, if you like that. Do what feels best when using this tape.

Everyday choose one new belief to install (or over 2 days, by using both sides of the tape).

Over time you will probably discover, when changing one belief, then you will find a new belief which was behind the other belief. Getting deeper and deeper into the truth of your beliefs.. Changing them big time, so you really consciously and uncounsciosly live in the world which is real, the one filled with love for each other.

Go for your dreams...

I agree with the previous post that Natural Brilliance is a great way to let go of fear of rejection and other "stuck states." I highly recommend it..

You may also want to check out Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) at www.emofree.com for a method that I found works very quickly in releasing negative emotions.. I used it in conjunction with Natural Brilliance and also the Sedona Method for a powerful synergistic effect.

Also, the book, The Power of Letting Go, by Patricia Carrington, gives a technique very similar to The Sedona Method. Great way to do quick releasing of negative energy.

Best wishes,

Robert

I would suggest Personal Magnetism and Belief. However, dispite the title I would say that Belief is the better tape.

I would just use NLP with affirmation and visualizations of acceptance. The Belief tape will help you instill these beliefs you create in the positive affirmations.

Here are some things to try for affirmations:

I am pleasant surprise by how much people like me.
I notice people's non-verbal expression of acceptance and affection.
I'm a happy energetic person and people are naturally drawn to me.
People want to hear want I have to say, and I positively impact their lives.

If you'r just starting with NLP affirmations and visualizations. Make sure to include the surprise and notice ones. They are the most fun and I believe the most effective when starting to change an attitude. You can use any affirmations, but those kind are very good at the start. They are low expectation and make you more alert for the positive things that exist in your life.

Much Happiness,

Iam2