Dear Decision2change,
Life is relationships and is probably the most important thing in your life.
How to improve relationships? The problems can't really be solved through psychology. Everyone is constantly trying to understand, analyse, judge others whilst struggling to change the other person because 'we know that we are right'.
Unfortunately this doesn't work as we are all like computer programmes and birth,traumas,education,culture and condititioning have programmed each of us. Consequently if you try to understand or change someone it is a bit like one computer programme trying to change another.
What you need to do is to experience the other person fully. Do not try to change them, stop judging and being critical and start to experience them. Step back and watch them like a movie and then you will start to know how to respond.
When you start doing this - accepting the person as they are, no longer being judgmental and critical, your perceptions will change and you will feel happier.
It costs nothing to try - it is simple , practical and it works!
Love and light
Faune
