D2C... I suggest you work with the Positive Relationship Paraliminal if you have it and the New History Generator. Self talk can make or break you in any area of your life.
Be careful too of focusing too hard and too much on what you don't like that you forget to see in your minds eye what you do want.
Often people tell coaches I don't like this and I don't want that in my life and the coach asks what do you want instead? They don't have an answer. Because they only see what they don't want. Write down what you do want... and be careful of all or nothing thinking. I don't believe it's 100% true that you sabotage every relationship you have.
Alex