Anyway, does anyone have suggestions about how to overcome this issue so I can get on with my life? Not even just so I can have a girlfriend, but so I can enjoy the rest of my life without this obsession ruining it......
I am mainly interested in using the paraliminals I mentioned in the first post to restructure my thought process, or even my identity. I am aware of the benefits or meditation and do try to practice it. I am pretty happy with the changes I've been making for myself, especially the last few months (dropping some addictions, going out on some dates, getting in shape and eating better) but the core of this remains. Just writing this out has been painful. I just need to get my mind thinking about it all in different ways I know. So please, any insights people have, I'd like to hear them.
As for the paraliminals, I'm excited to try them but when I listen I'm pretty confused. Off the top of my head, I have a few questions about the Belief one:
When installing a new belief, it's asking me to go back into my life "the first time I had that belief" and whatnot. Of course I didn't have that belief or I wouldn't be listening to the Belief paraliminal trying to install it 10 years later. So am I making up an event that didn't happen and pretending it did? Or am I imagining an event that happened and how it would have been if I did have the belief? Or am I supposed to be imagining myself in the future having the belief? I'm pretty confused about that one. I'll see what people have to say before I ask anything else.
I really appreciate you taking the time to read this and any direction you might offer me.
