Hi Mystery,
I hope you are feeling better....I just wanted to add something that has helped me, but has nothing to do with the paraliminals. I've carried some bad experiences with me from childhood as well, and found that I hvae been able to get over them now (26 yrs old) by writing a letter of forgiveness to the person/place/thing/or event of what has kept me negative all these years. You start out by explaining what happened, and you let out all your feelings about it, and then towards the end of the letter, you offer forgiveness to the person/situation etc. Once you're done, rip the letter up, and flush it down the toilet, or throw it away in a river or ocean. This has worked for me, and many friends. Sometimes you have to forgive the person involved, yourself, the place, the event. It depends. Try it, can't hurt. Good luck! I'll say a prayer for you.
Liana