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First, I just want to say that you are very brave to be willing to confront this stuff coming up now and should be lauded for wanting to explore it with a therapist.




Thank you. I've never thought of myself as brave.


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Second, anger is a good sign over depression. It shows the "blocked" energy is now moving and needs to flow.

True: Depression is often anger turned inward.



Third, I would do some journal work and affirmations along with some creative visualization. Shakti Gawain, in her classic book, CREATIVE VISUALIZATION, talks about a release technique.

Here is how I remember it (I tried this and it helped me a lot with some anger and hurt I had been holding onto):

You write, any names of people who have hurt you and/or you are holding onto some resentment or other negative emotions.

Then write down exactly what they did to you.

Then you see them as if they are in front of you.

And then you tell them that you are now releasing them.

And you write that down.

You then tear up, flush away or burn (I like burning it for some reason. Feels more powerful for me) the paper.

She says you may need to do this a few times before the release happens.

It may be that you cannot or will not release the person. But you can at least do the same kind of technique with yourself. In other words, just in case you have any guilt or feelings of shame that linger, at least work on forgiving yourself.




I tried this a few times, but it didn't really help me until I realized that I had emotionally put myself on trial for telling the truth, and my credibility was being tested because of my past actions, and everyone who didn't believe me testified against me, and the penalty for my "crime" was death, and things were not looking good. I was judge, jury, prosecutor, defendant, and ultimately, I'm afraid, the potential executioner. Then, I remembered Mr. Rogers (yes, THAT Mr. Rogers) speaking authentically in a video I saw recently. I realized that the only way to free myself was to speak authentically. I basically said something like this:

"I may look alone in this trial, but I do not stand alone. I stand with every person, living and dead, that has told the truth and maintained that truth, even when no one believed those people except themselves and God. I stand with them to make sure that they are not alone. And we stand together -- we stand for truth."

It sounded better in my head than what I've written here, but that's not important. The important thing is that I didn't leave that court in shackles. I was freed. And that's what enabled me to release the person. I wrote him a note, saying that I released him, and that I hoped that he would be successful and one day even forgive himself for what he did to me, and possibly others.

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Shakti and others talk a lot about writing affirmations and then when resistance comes up, writing that. Then responding with another affirmation, etc.

In any case, whether you use any of the above specific techniques, journaling can be very helpful. In your own private journal, you can express yourself in any way you want.

Yo can feel free to express anger, fear, resentment etc.

I would still follow up with affirmations such as "I deserve the best in my life and I feel (or see) love coming to me now". Or "I am a person who gives and deserves love". Etc.

Be creative and play with it.

I would also try some deep breathing techniques and visualize yourself as being whole and centered. A few minutes of this every day can help you until you get to meet with your therapist.

I hope this helps and I wish you healing energy. May it be so now.



Thank you for your suggestions. They are all very helpful.