What modles are you using? I'm thinking for realism you'd want to use someone who has overcome social phobia themselves, either in real life or fictionally.
I do see what you mean about esoteric nature. The complex mass of learned behavior is complicating your life, even if you no longer have the phobia itself. All I can think of recommending at this point is daily listening. Maybe you'll find the capstone that makes it all fit into place.
