CarlosS,
Hey brother, let’s see if we can do the right thing here. . .
Giving advice on relationships can be unpopular, as only you know your relationship. However, one thing is true, the right thing is to include your wife in the situation. She really does have a right to know, and you may be surprised at how much faster the situation is resolved by being open and honest with her.
If you need to go for a walk to get things straight, I would do it soon, like today. Maybe you could listen to “Talking to Win” and get yourself together, so you two can have a positive conversation. In my opinion, the only way to “win” here is to team up with your partner. If you continue to keep this from her, sooner or later it may turn out very poorly. You married your wife for a reason. . .she must be a special woman. I would really look at that truth and go from there. Obviously you were trying hard to take care of this without “bothering” your wife, so to speak. And sometimes it feels like we get in way too deep with situations. But Carlos, would you leave your wife if she brought this situation to you? You might not be pleased, and she may not be either, but you would work it out, right? That answer might be a big help in realizing that even though we all get in over our heads sometimes, we have a teammate to rely on for solutions. I really do live by the saying,” the truth shall set you free.”
This is the only recommendation my conscience will permit me to give you, because this is the only way your conscience will be clean. The sooner the truth comes out, the sooner you can deal with this situation. Doing the right thing always brings about the best possible outcome.
Have Faith! : -)
~Kale-y Mustard Seed~
