Carlos,
Your happiness is important. . . we all deserve to be happy. So, although I am prodding you in the direction of “spilling the beans“, I know that you will find the way that feels right to you. How about this analogy. . .
Remember when you fly in an airplane, the flight attendants go through the pre-flight instructions? The part that applies here is, put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others. Only, in this situation your wife already has her mask on, and you really could use the assistance. It’s hard to make progress when we're not getting enough oxygen, due to being stressed out. You have conquered much in your life, and you will handle this as well. One thing I had to learn was. . .sometimes being the best leader means knowing when to accept help.
Best wishes,
~Archangel Michael~
