Why is change difficult?
Hello everyone. I am new to the board and have been reading some of the posts. I have a very unique background mainly because I am a curious and intelligent person who can get bored with the “norm”.
One thing I noticed is a reoccurring theme with many posts and that is difficulties with change. Examples to this are, “It has taken me months to change this habit.”, Or, “The habit changed but now it is back. Is something wrong?”. You get the idea.
I thought I would take a moment to explain what is happening. but first I will give a little background on myself. I have been studying “Success” and how to achieve it for over 20 years (trust me it is a journey NOT a destination). I am a certified hypnotist, and have personally struggled with many “difficulties in my life.” Nothing serious and noticeable such as being a cripple, having a debilitating disease, or anything of that nature, just a long bout of feeling like I was worthless, a loser, and taking up space on this earth. Oddly enough my stepfather would always say I was a worthless piece of dung while I was growing up so maybe that wasn't a coincidence
. I am a smart Alex so please bear with me.
I have had some very difficult times but that is long in the past now. Now it is about fine tuning my life and that is an awesome position to be in. I hope I can be an inspiration to others who are struggling.
Essentially change is difficult because we have to deal with this innate biological program called “homeostasis”. No this doesn’t mean that we are all gay
, it’s definition is “an innate drive to stay the same”. It is a good thing and a bad thing it just depends on how you look at it and how you handle it. You can bypass it but you have to understand it, and above all be patient.
This addresses the question of “why did it work so quickly for this person but not me?”. Homeostasis is basically like climate control in your house or car. You set it at a temperature and if it gets above or below that temperature either the heat will come on or the air conditioner depending on the circumstance. This is why some seemingly successful people self-sabotage, or why it is so difficulty to become wealthy etc.
Whatever image we have of ourselves in our subconscious is evident with our results in life. This is what Paraliminals try to tackle and does a pretty good job of.
Now it is said by many scientists that our subconscious is responsible for around 90% of our actions, habits, likes, dislikes, etc. What is the color of the last two cars you purchased? What kind of cloths do you often buy? How do you fix your hair and how long have you done it this way? These are subconscious habits. Have you ever spent a small fortune on having your hair done (Donald Trump is exempt from this question
)a certain way to only see it back the same way only a few days later? Homeostasis!
So why does change come so easily for one person but not another and they are using the same exact method such as a Paraliminal CD?
Well ………
If people are interested I will answer this question in a future post (in a couple of days). I figured this would be a great way to introduce myself
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"You can never tell what type of impact you may make on another’s life by your actions or lack of action. Sometimes just with a smile on the street to a passing stranger can make a difference we could never imagine."
Ed Foreman: Congressman, advisor to 5 American presidents
Alexander Everhart
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