I would go back to the listening of the music. Each time you listen song that reminds you of your ex, it automaticly builds stronger memory threads and in away increases your pain of losing someone you like. The memory optimizer is talking about this issue. Most of us have lost someone that we love and in my case music was integrated part of my life. I finaly found out much later how "dangerous" music can be because of the power it has on people. Hovewer just like it has power to harm it has also power to heal. If you love music, then you could be interested of trying Sound Body, Sound Mind by Andrew Weil. It's designed for healing, it's good and works nicely allong with the Paraliminal learning. The key idea in that music is to get your mind out of the way, of your natural healing. It can be that the music you listen, can prevent you from healing from the pain of losing her.
