I have done a few things which have been helping. But it's a cycle. I let go to a point, then something happens, i observe something and my friends online also observe it, and we all come to the same conclusion that she still cares about me on some level.
e.g. The other night i we were both on the chess site i play at (it seems alot of people know who we both are now) and she always leaves with a goodbye which contains more information than it should. Sometimes it's "bye everyone, i got to get ready, i'm going partying tonight with some friends" or "i got to go - i have a friend coming over" this time it was "i have to go, i got home at 5am this morning from partying all night long, i need some sleep". Anyway after she left (which took over 5mins because she had to wait for all the guys she's flirting with to say "hugs" "kisses" or anything else) i wrote in the chat room "it's about time she left, she can't leave till she gets hugs, kisses, or invitations for sexual encounters" then followed laughter by lots of people in the chat room, then i wrote "oh and she's just too hardcore staying up till 5am...oooh we better watch out".
Little did i know that she had logged back on under a different name to watch what i was saying, she then came back on said something about me not being able to "pay her out" in front of her face, then left after avoiding me saying her "job is done". The next night she unavoided me 
Conclusion by me and some female friends i talked to was that she still cares about me on some level. This made me flip from all the progress i had made. I started wondering "what if this is just her in denial" "what if she really does love me" and a few hundred other "what if's".
I keep getting up to a point where all is good and i feel like i am moving on, then i somehow go back two steps and i want her back. (i have a way of dealing with this now which is ok). I think i need to just find out how she really feels and then that may help move on. Because i don't want to leave the site completely (especially since i have membership) and i don't want to have to see her playing games everytime i am on and want to relax and talk to friends. I think i might listen to the Relationships Paraliminal side A and IPM, which i haven't listened to lately, tonight before bed.
Kaiden what do you mean by "Formal Exorcism" ? sounds to weird for my liking.
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