First off Kevin what an awesome reply my friend. That is so incredibly true. You hit the nail on the head.
Blue Butterfly, I truly recommend working on yourself first, just like Kevin suggests. It is exactly what "The Secret" says; you don't attract what you want (in this case the type of person you want) you attract what you are thinking about on a regular basis. I am talking the subconscious though and of course that is really why you are on this website.
To give you and idea from example (my personal life), I am a very nice person, and most people say very good looking; however I attract people who are emotionally unavailable from one degree to another. I couldn't figure out how this was happening but I figured out it was because of subconscious reason that were drilled into me from my abusive step-father. I believed I wasn't deserving of love; that relationships were always about turmoil and "pain" (not that I am into any wierd stuff like S&M); etc.
Understand, I am not attracting the type of mate I truly want yet (actually I am not attracting anyone I can tell because my priorities or on other things), but I am becoming more of the type of person I want to attract. That is very odd to me but that is what all the experts say. Become the type of person you want to attract and you will attract that type of person. I'll be honest, I am still a little confused by that statement but I know that it is true.
So I guess the long and the short of what I am saying Blue Butterfly, is work on yourself for some time. Deal with emotional baggage, let it go, and become the type of person you wish to attract and it will happen.
May your journey be prosperous!
Alexander J. Everhart
