Hi Jade and rbarata,
Earlier this year I read The Sedona Method. Hale Dwoskin talks about how, in some cases, negative beliefs are hard to shake because there is a hidden benefit that we don't want to give up.
Could that be the case with you two? Maybe a fear of change is causing the conflict. Jade, if you finish your projects, you'll move away from where you are now and improve yourself, maybe get a promotion, a different job, move to a new town. That sounds good on the surface, but change is very disruptive. We get used to who we are, even when we don't like it. If you begin to finish projects, you will be out of your comfort zone for awhile until you get used to being "a person who finishes projects."
Maybe there's a hidden satisfaction in being right about your own negative self-talk. I'm dealing with this one myself. My self talk has been, "I don't really deserve to make a lot of money, because I was really irresponsible with it when I was younger." The hidden benefit in that belief is that I'm right about it. "See? Told you. I can't make money." rbarata, is it possible you feel validated when your theory about your own low self-esteem is proved?
Hale Dwoskin says this usually isn't something you consciously recognize, so it's nothing to feel guilty about. If you can recognize it, you can take action to get rid of it.
With my issue, I decided to use the Belief paraliminal to install a very simple belief: "Change is good and I am safe." That helped act as a stepping stone to creating a new belief about money.
Until I did that, I didn't feel any better about money. Now I'm finally starting to make some headway.
If you have New Option Generator, you could use that to give yourself a new way to think about potential hidden benfits that might cause resistance.
Hope this helps.
Best always,
Dave
